My Uneventful First Time?

[Alyssa]

Ok I'm probably going to be judged hard for this.

I met my boyfriend online. It wasn't a dating site or anything like that. We met on Tumblr... We met in like July and talked for like 5 hours every night and texted all day for three months straight, until finally he decided to drive 6 hours to visit me. We talked in like a romantic way, and honestly I fell in love with him before we "actually" met (in person).

I'm saying all that because the first night that he stayed with me, we had sex. Yep, my first time was with a guy that I met in person a few hours prior. A guy that I'd met and been talking to online. Basically I went against all those informational things they give you that say not to meet people from the internet, haha.

Anyway, my first time wasn't all that. We were both virgins, and he had trouble keeping it up, probably because we'd basically just met each other and he had performance anxiety. We had sex for a long time and neither of us came, haha. I dunno, it felt good for me, but it wasn't amazing or anything. We've definitely gotten a lot better at it since then.

That's my boring first time story.

[plethorian]

Hey man, at least your story isn't one with a bad ending! It could very well have turned out to be a mistake, but luckily it wasn't! And tumblr I'd say is a fantastic place to meet people, hahaha. The only good place, I'd venture to say!

And I think uneventful is just as good as a good first time, haha. There are so many awful stories about pain and bleeding and trauma, good to hear popping the cherry isn't actually terrible for everyone.

[Alyssa]

Haha, you have a good point. There was basically no pain, and I didn't bleed or anything, so that's always good. Seeing as how it was with someone I met online, it could have been much worse.

[shadow]

I don't think that's a bad story, as said, could have been a lot worse.

In fact, it's probably just as interesting as my 'non' first time... =]

[mercurial]

I like your story! The closest thing I have to an online relationship is an online pen pal, and I'm sure if we ever met offline we'd be close friends immediately because of our online history; I don't see why romantic relationships should be different. But anyway, I definitely agree that noneventful is a lot better than bad eventful --and it's interesting. ^__^ To me at least. And I'm super jealous that it was painless and more or less fun for you!

[plethorian]

Tumblr friends and crushes should get together in real life more...it's not like facebook or youtube or anything else, I think, because tumblr has some sort of crazy awesome witch voodoo goin' on where we're all awesome.

[shadow]

I've met people from a forum before and we had a great time and we shared a hotel room to save money and stuff, which was good.
Of course, some people are crazy freaks who shouldn't be met in person, but as long as you have talked to them enough and you can guarantee they're are who they are claiming to be, then its fine!

[Alyssa]

Exactly! I think it's so annoying when adults are like "you've never met that person so they're not actually your friend" or "don't trust anyone online because they're all pedophiles." I've made some really great friends online, and they don't understand the connection you can make with people through forums or chat rooms or whatever. I mean, I'm sure that if you asked them if you could become good friends with a pen pal they'd say yes. This is no different, except that you can talk to them a lot more, video chat, etc so it's probably even safer.

[shadow]

I think my mum was like that at first but now she has online friends so she understands. We both go 'on my friend in America...' or wherever and we just know that the other person is talking about online friends not a IRL friend. =]